No more PERSEF2 :(

I enjoyed PERSEF2 and I will cherish the lessons that I learned through it, hmmm, I wonder what's in store for PERSEF3 and PERSEF4, hehe :p

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My favorite part of the lesson what when we discussed about Motivational Leadership, it feels good to know that you lead others by motivating them. I have been a leader lots of times already and I have learned that leaders should really be flexible enough to address the differences in one's group. Everybody differs when it comes to the kind of motivation that you need to give, these tips should help:

• Criticize constructively.
• Give your members goals.
• Give members a chance to take part in decisions.
• Let members in on your plans and ideas
• Show interest and appreciation of people
• Be fair.
• Ask member for advice and their help.
• Remember, people work best on their ideas.
• Be careful what you say and how you say it.
• Let your members know where they stand.
• Give credit where credit is due.
• Suggest, Ask or Request.
• Always play up the positive.
• When wrong, admit it promptly.
• Keep your members informed.
• Criticize in private.
• Praise in public.
• Be considerate.
• Be responsible.
• Be an example.
  

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This is our worksheet for this module :)
Cultural sensitivity is one of the prominent issues on the planet. Discrimination is like the twin of culture, they are somehow intertwined. I remember the ice breaker that we had before we discussed about culture competency. While we were on the game, we were unconsciously doing things that reflected how we stereotype people. It sad to know that this hinders us from treating others equally. I hope that someday we will be able to get past the stereotypes and discrimination and then everyone on the planet will get along just fine :)

Here's to World PEACE!

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This is our worksheet for that week's module :)
When we discussed the situation of the youth today, it broke my heart. It was hard to accept that really bad things have been happening to them and the saddest part is that the situation they are in is not entirely their fault. We are aware of malnutrition, child abuse, child labor, inadequate education, conflict with the law. These things have been around for the longest time now and its just sad that we don't seem to be doing anything about it. I have realized how lucky I am to be a part of the fortunate group of the youth. I am well taken care of and I receive good education, I am not abused and I don't even need to work for my needs, my parents provide me with everything that I need. Let's pray for our youth. Let's try to make a difference.

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We were made to attend a seminar c/o the OCCS. There we discussed the different things we needed to remember when apply for a job. We were taught how to make our resumes and how to dress properly and most especially how we should handle ourselves on the job interview.

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Our future selves, haha. That's me, Ivan, Daphne and Oressa :)
Oh the joy of career planning, NOT, haha. This module actually made me panic.

I have a lot of goals in life, and I do want to achieve them all. Career planning was difficult for me since I found it hard to fit all of goals with the career that I will be having in the future. When I was analyzing my goals, they seemed out of place. To me, the looked as if they will stay as dreams. But then when I answered our Career Planning Worksheet, I was able to work them out. I am happy because I know, in one way or another, I will be able to achieve my goals. I just have to work extra hard ;)

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This module made me think of a lot of things, specially the kind of lie I'll be living in the future and who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. There was this particular topic that we discussed for this module -- the traits or values that we didn't want to be compromised in the marriage. And because of this I came up with my own list, this needs a bit of editing though, its still unfinished. I think that in the coming years, I'll be removing adding new stuff to this list!

Labels: PERSEF2, relationships

The way platonic relationships develop into a romantic one is kind of interesting. Here's how everything develops, eeek! Haha.

• Sampling: contains aspects of the selection process
• Bargaining: determining the kinds of rewards you may expect and the kinds of costs that will be incurred
• Commitment: a person gives up other relationships in favor of a particular one
• Institutionalization: two people formally ratify their commitment. This stage is not really a process but more of an event

Another topic that we discussed for this module are the stages of Deterioration of a Relationship, I never actually thought that there are stages, haha. Anyways here they are.

1. Reduction of Tolerance - people begin to change their orientation from we to I. The relationship begins to show much less open discussion.
2. Drifting Apart - people begin to lose interest in the opinions and feelings of the other. Soon they begin to avoid each other.
3. Ending - both parties seek to bring a formal end to the relationship.

And lastly the best thing that I learned in this module was the climates in which relationships thrive. I think that this is the best since it gave me an idea what I should be and what I should avoid in order to be able to take care of the relationships that I have.

Descriptiveness rather than evaluation
Spontaneity rather than manipulation
Provisionalism rather dogmatism
Equality rather and superiority
Openess and trust

Celebrate differences! :)

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Our activity for that week :)
Significant others. And you're probably thinking of the boyfriend-girlfriend romantic type of relationship already. I tell you, the category significant others doesn't only entail the romantic kind of relationship you can have with the opposite sex. It also includes the other types of relationship you have with other people .

1. Acquaintance Relationships. This includes the people you know by name and you talk with them when the opportunity arises. They're important becuase they meet many social needs.
2. Role Relationships. These are people who holds prescribed roles. Parents, siblings, coworkers, your doctor, these people are included in the role relationship. This kind of relationship lasts only so long as they hold their roles.
3. Friendship Relationships. Friends are people we like and who likes us. These are the people whose company we enjoy. Friendships are built on trust and they require a certain level of commitment.
4. Deep Friendship or Intimate Relationship. These includes the people with whom we share our deepest feelings. We can countless of the other relationships, but we are likely to have only one or two truly intimate relationship. Romantic relationships are the obvious kind of this but it can also be an unromantic type of relationship, like those of the best of friends.

We all know that not all relationships last long. People have developed theories to explain why people have the tendency to move in or out of relationships. The first one is Interpersonal Needs, this explains that the maintenance of the relationship depends on how each person meets the interpersonal needs of the other. The Cost-Reward Theory simply tells us that a person would most likely keep the relationship of the effort he or she is exerting is reciprocated by the other person. Lastly, the Balance Theory states that humans seeks balance in attitudes and behavior in a relationship, this entails positive relationships among two people.

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Your group is reporting in class. A group mate takes credit for work that you have done. What do you do?

This is one of the common scenarios in life wherein you are expected to make the most heart-crushing, kidding haha, the most reasonable decision. There are a lot of things to consider... Is this right? What will happen if I pursue this? What's the worst thing that could happen? Will I be able to handle the consequences? and the list goes on and on an on... But what can you do right? You want to make and ethical decision.

Ethical decision-making is probably one of the hardest things to do. Its more than just deciding if what your doing is right or wrong since the concept of right and wrong varies from one person to another. This kind of decision-making takes into consideration the after-effect of your decision. Your purpose is even included in this since you wouldn't want to confuse people with the kind of behavior you are showing. Another thing to take into consideration is that whether or not your decision would be something you could be proud of, your self-esteem is affected in this. Persistence is a key factor too, since you must make ethical decisions not only when it is convenient for you, you should do it every time.

How do you decide?

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What comes into your mind when you hear the word stress? If you ask me, I envision sleepless nights, tummy aches, mood swings, and a lot more things that are irritating (it seems to me that anything that's irritating is related to stress, haha). I see stress as a draining force, the kind that sucks the life out of you and I know that people would give anything (well, almost) just to avoid being stressed out.

Stress basically stems from a lot of factors -- procrastinating, high expectations, problems, changes and many other things. These produce stress when we can't find any other way to handle them. We tend to think more of these things than any other aspect of our life and then eventually, it gets the better of us. It could even lead us to a bottomless pit of emotions at times.

What Module 2 of PERSEF2 taught me is that we COULD handle stress, prevent it even. The first thing that you have to do is to identify your stressors - the things that tend to stress you out. Next is you try to identify its root cause and then you try to think of something that would prevent the root cause. The next thing to do is you list down your plan of action, your plan of action contains the steps that you would take to get rid of your stressor. And lastly, you take note of the challenges that you would be facing in the process of controlling your stressors, this is a good idea because you already know the possible distractions that you will be experiencing and you can come up with ways to deal with them, even before they happen.

Here are some tips to help you manage stress

• Become aware of your stressors (see?)
• Bring attention to you breath (deep breaths..)
• Improve your EQ
• Change your attitudes and perceptions of stress (think positive!)
• Set goals
• Manage your time (I suck at this)
• Take care of your body
• Take it easy (have fun!)

Here's to a stress free life ahead! :)

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She is my best friend, probably the best-est (if there was even such a word) I could ever have. Just like any friendship or best-friendship (she made that word up), ours isn’t perfect; there are times when I try to stop and think how things could run so smoothly or well, bumpy (occasionally). Of course we’re two different individuals and we believe that there was a very good reason why we were brought together. It’s probably one of those things we share and it keeps us going. Knowing the purpose behind our best friendship makes things a whole lot different, specially how we see and treat each other. Come to think of it, we do have a lot in common, like how we can be personal or underpersonal depending on who we were with. This trait of ours complements our needs, there would be times that I wouldn’t be able to stop yakking about how I feel and I’m thankful that she would always be there to listen and share anything that she happens to know about my situation, like sharing to me a story about a friend of hers being in that situation and how she or he got over it. Knowing that someone was in the same situation helps, a lot. Especially if that person was able to find a way out of it and with this I’m thankful that I have a friend who has a lot to share. As much as we like to believe that we are social enough to be with different groups of people anytime we want, it’s a surprise that we have a negative feeling about being alone. I mean, if we were comfortable hanging out with different people shouldn’t we be able to comfortably hangout with ourselves – alone? But that’s not the case; we’re both not comfortable with being alone. Eating alone is always not an option, especially if we can find our way around or out of it. Maybe we’re a bit too much like each that’s why we easily fit, like two puzzles.

She’s really a good friend to begin with. I mean, you don’t find genuinely good people overnight and it’s a relief to have found her. What I need from her is simple, that she be with me whenever she could be, whether I need her or not. Just be there. And she gives it without any complaint because it’s the same thing that she wants and of course I give it to her too, without any complaint. You have to be like that to someone you want to keep, forever. You have to learn how to compromise or sacrifice but of course with limits. There are times when things seem to get of hands, of course the occasional fights are always present but we do something to quickly resolve the argument. We pray. I do think that we pray for each other a lot and that’s what keeps our best friendship strong. God is the center of our relationship and I do think that it makes a huge difference, why? It’s like this, when God is the center of your relationship with another person, you wouldn’t want to hurt the other. You know that God created him or her too and he or she deserves respect and love from you. We always have this mind and this makes us think about our actions carefully. We wouldn’t want to end up hurting each other, any kind of argument or misunderstanding can lead to the end of our friendship and we both don’t want that to happen, and that’s another thing – we both want the same thing. We want our friendship to last forever and we’re going to work everything out. Everyday is a challenge, and yes, we are up for it. Things are actually a lot easier when you have someone like Daphne for a best friend.

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